9.20.2009

My Father Search Update: Ladies and Gentlemen...Meet Earl Rideaux. Is he my father?


Series by Jesse Muhammad

It has now been a little over two weeks since I first announced to the world via GlobalGrind.com that I was embarking on a journey with my mother to find out the true identity of my biological father. (Archive Here)

As you may have read in my previous updates, this search has moved faster than we expected. Many blessings have occurred to bring us one step closer to the truth. And an even larger step was taken this past week.

On September 17, 2009, I met with Earl Rideaux for the first time in person in 12 years. The last time I saw him, I was playing one of my last basketball games as a senior at Forest Brook High School. He came to see me play against Channelview High....but honestly I did not remember how he looked.

My mother picked me up to head over to his apartment in Northeast Houston. She filmed me sharing my thoughts as we drove on the freeway. Plus she videoed me once we got to the apartment. I will post those videos soon.

I knocked on the door of the apartment. My mother was smiling hard. Me too. The door opened and greeting me with a warm smile was Brittney, one of his daughters that I met on Labor Day. Then I heard Earl's voice yell "He's here. Come on in son!".

He hugged me and my first thought was "Man he's tall and long", which is one of the reasons my mother had assumed he was my father. He then introduced me to his wife and about seven of his grandchildren were present too; he has a total of twelve. That means I could have twelve more nieces and nephews. Then two of the other daughters, Crystal and Tiffany, came out to embrace me with smiles.

After being there for a few more moments, we headed to the clinic to get the DNA test. He would not stop talking the entire time. He shared with us how he survived two fatal shootings that brought him to death's door. Both times the doctors told him he would be paralyzed or would not make it at all. He even showed me some of the scars from the surgery he had the first time from being shot point blank with a 9mm by a carjacker. Those scars are hard to stare at.







We arrived at the DNA Testing Center owned by Dr. John Lovely for a 6:00pm appointment. We filled out the paperwork and then Dr. Lovely used swabs to rub the inside of our right cheeks. Packaged up the samples, sealed them up for shipping and that was a wrap in ten minutes.





Before leaving, Earl and I talked in the parking lot about his views on religion, his personal struggles, the good things he's heard about me from his brother, and that regardless of the outcome he is happy to have me in his life at this time. I will share more of this conversation at another time.





We then drove him back home. When we got to the apartment complex, he made a very serious statement to me. He said "I never knew why God spared my life those two times until today. I have come to realize that he spared my life so we could have this day, this moment. Regardless of the outcome of that test, this has been a special day for me, son."

Those words stuck with me. Because if he had died.....well no need to dwell on that because he is alive. I am too and so are you if you're reading this blog. Appreciate life.

30 comments:

  1. Awesome use of THINK, PLAN, EXECUTE! Your story will give strength for many now and later for this you have demonstrated your greatness. What you've done takes courage that many have not shown.

    Eternal Success!

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  2. I am in tears....wow. This is so courageous of you Brother Jesse to share this with the world. Best of luck.

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  3. This is truly inspirational. I am sure more people in our community would like to do the same thing! You are awesome Brother Jesse!

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  4. Now THIS is reality TV for real....amazing story.

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  5. Please tell me that you are going to write a book on this?

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  6. Wonderful blog! Boy you are an inspiration Brother Jesse!

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  7. I'm honored that you have allowed us to walk with you on this journey...Prayers & Blessings to you both!

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  8. I am so happy that you have taken up this cause to try to complete the legacy you will pass on to your children. Earl seems nice and he will be blessed if you are his son and you will be blessed as well. You are a powerful young strong man and my life is richer because we have crossed paths. Can't wait for the update.
    Blessings,
    DvineExpressions (Rev. Deb)

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  9. This is beautiful....you are a very very brave to be so open about this.

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  10. WOW!!!!! That's all I can say!

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  11. Thanks for sharing this wonderful and tear jerk of a story.

    The Harvey Journal
    www.theharveyjournal.blogspot.com
    @hmihcaelharvey

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  12. As-Salaam Alaikum!
    Brother Jesse,
    I pray that all of your questions are answered and that this journey makes you whole. I believe that you are ready. Wonderful story!

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  13. Brother Jesse,
    You never seem to amaze me. I absolutely love reading your articles. I don't need a DNA test cause those noses are just the same : )
    Love You Much!
    Tomayia

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  14. I REALLY REALLY APPRECIATE EVERYONE'S SUPPORT. I HAVE RECOGNIZED THAT THIS JOURNEY IS NO LONGER JUST MINES OR MY MOTHER'S.....BUT THIS FOR ALL OF THOSE WHO HAVE WANTED TO DO THIS!

    THANK YOU AGAIN!

    --BROTHER JESSE

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  15. Peace & Blessings Bro. This is Leadership in action. I hope many are inspired and I pray that you are blessed as you submit to the process.

    Insh'Allah you will find your answer. That's what happens when you take The High Road.

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  16. Simple to say............. That is your father bro........... Wow too much resemblance from the both of you and I started looking at pictures of your mother to.

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  17. I think regardless of the outcome Earl Rideaux is an amazing man...DNA does not define a father & son. This appears to be a man that wants to be a father figure in your life, who could ask for more than that!

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  18. I am truly honored by all of the support on this blog! I will be sure to let Earl and my mother know about this. Thank you thank you thank you!

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  19. This is beautiful...so happy for you!

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  20. The responses of love to my son and myself are a true testament to the concept of unconditional love. People that we have never known reaching out and supporting us like this is truly a blessing. I am grateful to God that I never wanted to be anything but honest with my children about their lineage, and Jesse definitely took the bull by the horns and God provided the harvest. Thank you all and I pray that those who have this same path to travel can do so with courage and knowledge that they are not alone. Peace and Blessings to you all!

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  21. Bro. Jesse,

    You are a true pioneer. Thank you for all that you do. Earl would be honored to have you as a son. I am proud of you for being who you are. I have a son your age. You are what every mother and father who hope for in a son.

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  22. wow! good luck and congrats with your journey!
    Lenee'

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  23. This is an overwhelming show of support. Thank you all! My mother's (Mavis Jackson) comment above says it all.

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  24. Wow! What an incredible story. Please let us know what happens. Peace & Blessings --Imani

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  25. As-Salaam Alaikum

    Brother Jesse,
    As you know, Master Fard Muhammad came to resurrect our people and ultimately all of humanity. Our Saviour manifest His power in the repairing our Families. He Promised to completely restore us. After reading your most inspiring story, it became clear to me that Allah may be using you to be a part of the process that reconciles the destroyed Black Family. The signs are all in place. You are such a prolific speaker and writer, giving you the ability to effectively articulate and inspire others in the need for our Families to be reconciled and repaired. The other sign is the date your DNA test results is to be returned. September 22, 1931 was the date our Lord, The Most Honorable Elijah Muhammad met The Lord, Master Fard Muhammad, To Whom Praise is Due Forever. We Pray that as on that most important day in our history Sept. 22 (1931) that brought the 'Good News'--life to a dead people, that September 22, 2009 will be the 'Good News' of finding your biological Father and bring new life to you, your Father, your Family, and inspire many other Families to do the same.

    As-Salaam Alaikum
    Brother Preston Muhammad

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  26. He would be very lucky to have you as a son. You are a focused, commmunity-driven, and honorable guy-I hope things work out soon.

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  27. Thank you for sharing Brother Jesse. I need to get on my J-O-B. I have a photo of two children who may or may not be my fathers children and I can't help but wonder if they are looking for him. I started the process to find them more than one year ago and have dropped the ball. I'm on it again thanks to you! Good luck tomorrow! For you and your mother's sake.

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  28. As-Salaam Alaikum Bro. Jesse,

    Time is winding down for the results to be in, and I just wanted to express to you and your family especially your mom of how proud of you I am! This kind of journey calls for courage, trust in Allah, patience, and support! I, as well as thousands of others, am eagerly anticipating the news! May Allah Continue to Bless you and your family, and may He grant you and New Beginning (Healing) regardless of the outcome!

    Much Love,
    Sis. Ebony S. Muhammad

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  29. You all are so supportive! Thank you thank you!!! Results coming soon.

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  30. As-Salaam Alaikum
    Brother Jesse Muhammad,
    I have followed your journey as if it were my own. My father died when I was two years old, I have never seen a picture of him. Your search really got my attention because I understand the need to know the man that fathered you. May Allah continue to bless you son. With absolutely no way of knowing my father, my mothers husband, I felt lost and somewhat incomplete. In 1970 Allah blessed me with an X, I saw the Honorable Elijah Muhammad (my spiritual father) in 1971 and again in 1974. In 1978 I was blessed to meet another spiritual father, the Honorable Minister Louis Farrakhan. We have some mighty powerful fathers!!! In 2004, I received DNA results as I questioned my African Ancestry. I found that my ancestors hail from Cameroon West Africa and I am from the Falani people. What more can I ask for. Allah-U-Akbar.
    Peace/Love
    Brother Harold Muhamamd
    www.haroldmuhammad.com

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