Guest Post by Latonia Muhammad
As an adult it’s normal to evaluate your self-image, self-esteem or self-worth. It’s called self-improvement, which is the basis for community development. Everyone has room for improvement. We encounter people all the time that look like they have it all together or don’t have it at all.
Before we continue let’s take a quick quiz. This is not gender related and there is no right or wrong answer; just room for improvement. No one is looking so answer the following questions honestly.
1. Do people give you compliments?
2. Do you give compliments to others?
3. Do you doubt yourself in making decisions?
4. Do you always ask friends how do you look, when you like how you look?
5. Do you need validation to do something you desire to do?
6. When someone asks you to talk about yourself do you draw a blank?
7. Are you afraid to go out to dinner or a public place alone?
8. Do you compare your success or lack of to others?
9. Do you negate yourself to please others?
10. When you are alone with yourself are you comfortable with your thoughts about you?
After answering the above questions you have a starting point to assess your self esteem. Having a healthy perception of self is imperative to your personal success as well as your success in relating to others. Where do our self image, esteem and value come from? There are several common answers to this question, I will list a few. Parents, family, self, peers, role models, books as well as teachers and people who inspire us throughout our lives.
Very good answers and yes we are influenced in one way or another. However, we have to go further and dig a little deeper to get to the root of where self esteem/image originated.
Esteem is defined as respect and honor also to regard favorably. Image is defined as a visible representation. So now the most important question is How do I see myself and by whose standard am I judging my actions? We have all heard or read that we are made in the image of God. With that being the case whose characteristics should be the standard in which we give value to ourselves? What a perfect standard. Let’s identify some of God’s characteristics or attributes: The Patient, The Merciful, The Forgiving, The Peaceful, The Honorable, The Truthful, The Compassionate, The Gracious, The Kind, The Grateful, The Forbearing, The Wise, The Nourisher, The Just, The Sublime, The Loving, The Strong, The Friend, The Praise Worthy, The Generous and The Defender, just to name a few. Take a moment to envision you in the image of the most exalted characteristics. Your self image will be contagious because you will set the trend of being the best you that you can be. Your value will become priceless. Your challenge for the next 7 days is to,
1. Write down 5 characteristic you admire about yourself and state why. Repeat them out loud in a mirror for the next 7 days and remember to state why.
2. Second write the most annoying thing about you and state why. Next to that write down what you are going to do to change it. Repeat the change in the mirror for the next 7 days. You must practice the change as well.
3. Before you leave home compliment yourself, then compliment a least one person per day for the next 7 days.
4. Let’s try to understand others for the sake of peace. Muslims read something from the Holy Bible for 15mins per day for the next 7 days. Christians read something from the Holy Quran for 15 per day for the next 7 days. Then dialogue with each other to build new relationships.
5. Last but not least report your progress on the blog so we can share in your personal success! I look forward to hearing from you.
~Magnificent the expressionist
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