3.08.2012

Speaking Up and Speaking Out! On Sunday, Feb. 12, 2012 I Was Assaulted At the Home of My Child’s Father…

by Niedria Kenny


The Snow ball effect is a figurative term for a process that starts from an initial state of small significance and builds upon itself, becoming larger (graver, more serious), and perhaps potentially dangerous or disastrous (a vicious circle, a “spiral of decline.) The snow ball effect can be used to describe the effect of ongoing lies. Once you tell one, you end up telling another and another. Hence the ball of snow picking up more snow as it rolls. 


Speaking up and speaking out is detrimental. You enable the abuser when you protect them. I decided to speak out about this because it is domestic violence no matter if I were bleeding upon cop’s arrival. Violence against women has no place! It starts with simple assault. Perhaps this is the abuser testing the waters to see what and how much he/she can get away with. When there are no consequences, it happens again, as in my case. When someone will assault you in the presence of someone else, with no regard, they know that they are safe from ruin and they will do it again. When they do this, it speaks volumes about how untouchable and powerful they must think they are. When the police rest on a conclusion that if there is no blood or bruises, the abuser hears I can get away with this as long as I don’t leave a scar. 


....The abuser will make the abusee appear to be needy; they will attempt to discredit the abusee by assassinating their character. Their objective is to convince the law and anyone else who will listen, that they have everything to lose, therefore would never do such a thing; and that the abusee has nothing. In my case, for Tramell to mention that I was unemployed, not looking for a job, sitting around the house all day collecting child support and looking at family feud; whereas he is a pharmacist, was his malicious way to skew the officer’s perception of me and therefore finding his story more believable. While the only part of that which is true, the fact that I am unemployed by corporate America, it still has nothing to do with him assaulting me. It was not even the topic of discussion. [Read the full article]